Lady Who Has A Husband And Boyfriend Reveals How She Copes With Them. [Photos]
A woman has revealed how after a decade of being happily married, she met the second love of her life and decided she was polyandrous – with a husband and a boyfriend.
Café owner, Sarra-Maria Karlström-Rantala, 32, and labourer, Ville, 34, from Rovaniemi, Finland, have been together for 11 years, after meeting at a rock bar.
A year ago, Sarra met I.T worker, Jani, 28, while filming a concert his rock band was performing at on the beach and they swiftly became friends.
Over time, Sarra felt a romantic connection to Jani and she soon told both men that she wanted to be polyandrous – which refers to a woman having two male partners – with them both.
Although the men were both taken aback by the announcement and the concept of being polyamorous, they have learned to live with their newfound lifestyle since and have found it works for them.
‘I was the one who came out as polyamorous, which was a shock for the guys at first,’ Sarra said.
‘I’m dating both of the guys, but the guys don’t date each other. They have become very good friends though.
‘Being married to two guys isn’t legal in Finland, so I’m legally married to Ville, and in 2020 I will have a Pagan/Viking ceremony with Jani called handfasting. It’s kind of like a wedding but the priest is our friend.
‘We don’t all live together yet, but we hope to soon. We do own a café together though.
‘At the moment Ville and Jani have their own homes close to each other so I live with Ville for one week and then Jani the next week, and it carries on like so. We spend a lot of time together as a three though.
‘Now, Ville is very into the lifestyle, but Jani does remain more monogamous than us two – but he’s fine with the situation now.’
Polyamory is the concept of loving more than one person, and polyandrous defines a woman who chooses to take two or more husbands.